There’s No Such Thing As “From The Goodness Of Your Heart”

Yes, it’s true. Even the kindest gesture, charitable action, or a beautifully heroic sacrifice stems from a desire to control. It does not nullify the generous action or the kindness of the act. It brings it into existence, which is good.

Control is something we seek from the day we emerge as beings capable of grabbing and holding. It is built-in, and not even the best of us can avoid the need for control.

To please is what makes the second layer of selfishness we have. Regardless of whether we want to…